Betrayed

Who would have thought that a nice guy like me would be stuck in between a crappy situation, and making what I thought was a good idea turn into exactly the opposite. It's situations like this that really make you see who your friends are, and who is not. It doesn't have to be anything big either. It can be a simple misunderstanding or a lack in communication. Or it could be the support you need from who you thought was a friend, and don't get it.

To get a better understanding of this situation, let's go back a year. My senior year. I was friends with two people in my class. He was a junior, she was a senior. Let's call him X, and her Y. And against our "Class Code", they decided to date. Well of course we weren't thinking of that because of how perfect they looked together. People would tell then that they were the perfect couple. I know, I was one of them. But in the back of my mind I knew if something went sour then me and the friends associated with them would pay dearly.

A few months had passed, we had graduated, and when you work 70 hours a week, you really don't care what is going on in other people's lives. I found out that Y was ignoring my other friends because she was so up X's butt that my friend was left in the dirt. Later on, I find out that they were hanging out more. I wondered why. And then I found out that it ended between the two, and then found out that he wasn't as "good" as she thought he was, if you know what I mean.

Like I said, I knew it wouldn't last, no matter how good it looked. But I wasn't concerned because I was in college and all that teen stuff would remain on the high school steps where it belonged. And with that thought, I managed to balance being friends with X and Y.

Here is when things get sour. A week ago, my friend invited me to go bowling. I said sure. But eventually we couldn't get it planned out, and I thought I was going to have to babysit my sister, so I canceled. She said it was okay, and that was the last that I heard of it. And at that point, me, her, her sister and boyfriend were the only ones invited.

I send a text message to all of my old classmates wishing them good luck at the competition that they were participating it a few days later. Turns out I didn't get a good reaction. X sends me a message back, pretty much cussing me out about what happened at bowling the other night. I had no clue what he was talking about. When I asked, he said to talk to my friend because she would know.

I did, and it turns out that after I canceled, Y and her boyfriend was invited and so was X. When Y found out that X was going as well, Y bailed on everyone, and pretty much everyone followed her lead and left as well, leaving X solo. And what got me into the mix was his thinking that I had left before he got there. But as I have said, I was never there.

I was furious to say the least. I have never been accused of anything and treated that way as a result. I mean come on, at least get your facts right before you start pointing fingers. I tried to explain, but he doesn't reply. And then I ask people to tell him for me, and they say the only reply he gives is "OK". Excuse me? Shouldn't I get an apology for being dragged into this sort of feud?

What really burns me up is that Y won't defend me. She knows that crap I am taking, and my friend says that she has no intention of defending me or clearing my name. I told my friend to tell them to grow a pair and stop running away when an ex is mentioned.

But it gets better. X applied at where I work weeks ago. Now my boss is saying that she is looking at his application with my referral on it, and wondering what I think of him. I told her I didn't know enough of his work ethic to decide. What I wanted to say was "Oh Hell No, you better now hire him!" But I'm just not that kind of person. I don't want to be the one that stops someone from being hired. Trust me, I have felt that, and it hurts.

So yeah, I am left in this situation, and the funny thing is that it was never my fault. But hey, I guess that is what friends are for, right?

-Tyler